For years I was caught in the trap of overdoing everything.
I took on more and more work because I felt I had to prove myself. I couldn’t
let go of my responsibilities because I felt I would no longer be of value. I
made myself feel more important than others because I did more than they did. I
was not only creating an unhappy life; truth is I was also hurting my brain.
According to recent research based on The Framingham Heart Study, high levels of cortisol, a stress hormone, leads to reductions in brain volume, memory, and visual perception. This agrees with that I have found in my life. When I am too busy, when I am overextending myself, when I have intense stress, I don’t think, remember, or see well.
During my recent visit to the States, I had to prepare a
property for a new renter. The last renter left a lot of surprises. Almost
every day we found something new to repair, a utility bill that was not paid,
or some other twist that now needed untwisting. I was stressed. I was under a
deadline. Much of what had to be done was outside of my abilities which made me
feel powerless. Plus, I was trying to do this while still working and
attempting to visit with people I had not seen in a year. Every day I was at the rental house, I felt
distracted. I was unclear as to what to do or what I intended to do next. I
didn’t see things the first time I looked at them. Basically, I was not working
on all cylinders.
Stuff happens and we need to deal with it. This is part of
life. But there are a few ways we can minimize the effects of stress on our
lives and our brains.
Stick to Your Routine
This is my current challenge. I know, believe, and see proof that when we keep healthy daily practices, we are better able to deal with the challenges of life. However when life becomes too stressful or busy, I find myself more times than not saying I don’t have time for all of my practices or I am not doing them thoroughly. Our daily practices are our foundation of our sanity and serenity. Hold true to your practices as much as possible even when things go sideways.
Phone a Friend
Whether you ask a friend for help or just have a kind, compassionate ear to share with, making connections with others can lower our cortisol level. We go from stress and victimhood, to feeling heard and supported. This can make a difference in our physiological response, our ability to handle situations, and our experience of the challenges. Remember to reach out to the right person for the support you need. Brené Brown has some good advice about this; she talks about sharing shame but it applies to sharing our challenges as well.
Don’t Make More
Life is terrific at taking a left turn. Part of life is
dealing with challenges. And there can be a lot of them. That is why it is
important to not create more. Are you making mountains out of molehills? Are
you currently in a good spot and therefore feel a need to create an issue to
deal with? Do you feel naked and exposed without something to complain about?
Life is better the less we have to be stressed about. Be aware of when you are
adding on instead of removing stress from your life.
Be kind to your brain. Reduce your stress.